Narcissists are dressed up in a fake 👻 'self' created and uploaded as real. They invent characters for convenience and momentary interest and live like characters. Because of the admiration they attract, family, friends, colleagues and acquaintances often support them by becoming “facilitators”. By inventing character, everything is easy for narcissists. In record time or superficial contacts📞 many fall madly in love with them, considering 'soulmate', want to live with them or start marriage plans soon. By playing a role, they will not keep the mask with the real coexistence for a long time.
Pretending requires effort, narcissists have slips that (for someone informed, balanced, healthy, intelligent, experienced, self-esteem, friends and family who alert), are disturbed clear. Typical targets are 'old romantic', desperate for marriage/kids, lonely/unlucky, adventurous, losers alleged 'nerdy', with difficulties in social interaction and relating emotionally, who think themselves 'special/genius' (sometimes, a silly narcissist), who idealize 'perfect' match/relationship, etc., so they are not suspicious of the narcissist's 'magic'. When does not seek psychotherapy, becomes an easy target for narcissists.
Narcissists influence decisions to arrest the target. They hear the yearnings to accurately mirror them. If has access to target data/information📞 it becomes easier. They mimic the target's dreams and soon become a 'soulmate'. Does the target want to marry/kids? The narcissist wants it too. Lonely? The narcissist will be the 'friend'. Neglectful with something? The narcissist will 'lecture' about. So ahead.
They manipulate the target when convenient and never stick to it, 'marriage' is just a promise, part of the initial idealization and will not happen “for some reason that target caused…” Many narcissists are married, engaged, dating and when they want to jump out of relationship or bored, they look for the next target, keeping the decaying relationship in reserve and hiding the truth from the target. When the target finds out, narcissistic makes up fantasies that hid truth to 'protect' it and not get it into 'trouble'. Supposed 'smart' target believes or doesn't care and still elects narcissist 'first boyfriend/girlfriend'.
Being convenient, represents interests such as: status of the target, fantasy, ideal, challenge, adventure, attractive appearance of the target or prove that they are suitable, capable of forming 'family'. Often, they marry shortly after a traumatic break with another person with a vindictive aim, for a narcissist it is only a means to an end. In the narcissist's fantasy everything is justified for what it desires and is convenient.
Determined to attract target, they bombard attention, demonstrations of 'affection', 'lectures' (verbose 'outbreaks'), showing how genial and helpful they are to dedicate hours, days and even months to a stranger who barely knows or knows nothing if it is an 📞affair for example. It comes to the point that the target is totally dominated and addicted to the dreams 'relationship' by someone so 'smart, cute, perfect and similar', so the target loses total discernment to the point of choosing the narcissist 'Miss World' or 'Mister World' , eloquently.
Narcissists use romantic, sometimes 'intellectual' pyrotechnics to distract the target so that its real spectrum is not seen. Succession of alleged 'intelligence' through 'lectures'📞 love declarations, personality identification and surprises do not allow the target to think with discernment. The target may have an intuition of something wrong, but is constantly distracted and fails to form logical thinking. There are also narcissists manipulating others narcissists.
To gain attention, the narcissist stages positive emotions instigating charm and seduction to conquer the target, controlling attention and confidence📞 This includes eloquent flattery, appeal to vanity, ego, simulation of sympathy and acceptance, hasty closeness and intimacy. Everything to deserve special attention that they believe deserve. However, behind this desire for attention, there is often a very fragile self-esteem with serious problems of attachment, trust and security.
To break the cycle: cut quickly, clean and whole in any contact with the magic manipulator. Until it acts, the 'vampire', target's so-called 'reflection' and 'soulmate', will continue for more and more saying everything the target wants to hear for the umpteenth time, until when there is nothing left of the person it is, and the narcissist reveals itself as it has always been, an eternal 👻 parasite, fantasy of an artificial, superficial, fake and manufactured relationship. In short, an invented 'love'.
